"To live is the rarest thing in the world. Most people exist, that is all." -- Oscar Wilde
生活是人生中最宝贵的东西,而大多数人只是活着,仅此而已。——王尔德
Oscar Wilde was right -- it's rare to "live". "Living" will not mean the same thing for everyone reading this. Some may want to be a parent; others may want to travel the world experiencing new cultures. Whatever "truly living" means to you, it's time to stop suppressing that little voice. Life is short, and there's no guarantee of a tomorrow, today is the right time to start a journey that you'll look back on later in life and smile about.
王尔德是对的。去生活确实弥足珍贵。也许对每个正在读这篇文章的人来说,“生活”的含义不尽相同。也许有人渴望为人父母,也许有人希望环游世界、体验全新的文化。无论“活得精彩”对你的含义是什么,是时候释放出内心压抑着的呼声了。人生苦短。明天是未知的,而今天则是开启新旅程的最佳时机,去做一些日后回想起来会让你嘴角上扬的事情吧。
想要达到理想中的生活,不论它对你意味着什么,首先要突破这五个拖你后腿的障碍。你可以克服它们的,就先从这个选择开始:是放弃还是无论如何也要迎难而上?希望你选择后者。
1. Lingering Self-Limiting Beliefs
1、沉溺于自我限制的执念中
Each of us struggles with doubt and fear. There are things we tell our self that keeps us from even thinking about what we want from our life. These self-limiting beliefs convince us that what we want to do in life is too hard or too crazy. Stop believing these beliefs and go for your dreams anyway. This is YOUR life, and you only get one of them. Make it count.
我们每个人都时刻挣扎于怀疑和恐惧中。我们会自我暗示,让自己远离人生追求,甚至想都不敢去想。这些自我限制的执念使我们坚信自己的人生目标过于困难和疯狂。停止这些执念,去追寻你的梦想吧。这是你的人生,是独一无二、一去不回的,希望你不要虚度此生。
2. Listening to Negative People
2、听信充满负能量的人
Negative people will try to convince you that you'll fail and that you shouldn't even try. Their attitude and words are toxic and should be avoided if you're making to make big changes in your life. They can't see past their anger, but you can if you choose to purge them from your life.
充满负能量的人会劝你说,你注定要失败的,试都不用试。他们的态度和言语暗藏毒药,如果你想要改变人生的话,就得对他们敬而远之。他们被愤怒蒙蔽了双眼,而你还能看得清,你要做的就是把这些人从你的生活中清除。
3. Bad Habits
3、坏习惯
Forming good habits is the key to lasting change that leads to a life of truly living. Bad habits will keep you from having the mindset and taking the necessary steps to making changes in your life. It can be habits related to your health or mind, but the bad ones will keep you stuck.
形成良好的习惯是作出改变、通向精彩人生的关键。坏习惯会使你远离良好的心态,阻碍你迈出改变的步伐。习惯和一个人的健康、心理状态密切相关,而坏习惯会把人推入泥沼。
4. Information Overload
4、信息过剩
When you want to make a big change, you start the journey with researching what you want to do. A problem can arise when all you do is research. You tell yourself you want to learn more before you act, and it keeps you from acting for years. You experience information overload and become paralyzed because you're not sure what to do first. The best thing you can do is learn and then implement. Taking action is the key to truly living.
当你渴望做出改变,就会开始对你想做的事展开研究。但如果你除了研究其他什么也不做,那么问题就来了。你告诉自己在行动之前要了解更多,然后就这么拖了几年都没有行动。这时,你就处于信息过剩的状态中,不知所措,因为你不确定要从哪里开始。最好的办法就是学习,然后执行。行动是精彩生活的关键。
5. Fear of Failure
5、害怕失败
The fear of failure is natural and something everyone struggles with. We don't want to look bad, and we have a hard time hearing NO. The thing to understand is that failure is an important part of life because it teaches us valuable life lessons. If you look at any successful person, they'll tell you they embraced failure because it meant they were taking action. Change your perspective on failure and view it as an important part of growing.
对失败的恐惧是正常的,也是每个人都想要极力摆脱的。我们不想让自己难堪,担心被拒绝。要知道,失败是人生中重要的环节,因为它能教会你重要的一课。如果你回顾任何一个成功人士的案例,他们都会告诉你,他们坦然接受失败,因为这证明了他们有在行动。改变你对失败的看法吧,把它当作成长中至关重要的一部分。
It won't be easy, but it will be worth it to live instead of existing. If you start today, you're one more day closer.
一切都不会容易,但为了“生活”而不仅仅是“活着”,这些都是值得的。如果你从今天开始改变,你就离成功更近了一天。